Date: 2/25/20
Episode #1 - Helicopter Parenting
Take a look at how to decode this now classic style of parenting -- the Helicopter Parent. The hovering and nagging are holding our kids back! Learn why we do this and get hints on what to do about it so you can raise a responsible, respectful child to be an independent and amazing adult.
HOW WE HELICOPTER
- Hovering
- Nagging
2:30min
WHY WE HELICOPTER - three examples
- Forgetting a lunch box: a kid might be hungry
- Not waking up in the morning: a kid might not make it to school
- Contantly checking grades and assignments: a kid might not get all their assignments, projects and grades that they need to be successful in life
We don't trust that our kids can handle life. Without us they'll fail!
4:45min
HOW HELICOPTERING HARMS OUR KIDS
- Lunchbox kid: learns they can ignore the parents, that if their lunch is forgotten it's not their fault, it's their parent's fault
- Waking up kid: learns if they aren't ready on time then it's their parent's fault
- Grade checking parent: the kid learns they don't have to watch and plan, their parent will do it for them
6:50min
LETTING GO EXAMPLE - let my kid ready on his own
Once I stopped helicoptering my son learned how to plan his own reading schedule. We did some brainstorming but he owned it!
10:20min
UNINTENDED CONSEQUENCES
1 - Self Confidence is undermined. When we do too much because we don't trust our kids to take care of everything then they start believing that it's true.
2 - Lazy, entitled kids are created. When we do too much the kids learn that we'll do lots for them just to protect them so they learn they don't have to do things since mom or dad will cover for them.
12:30min
LET THEM FAIL!
We need to let go! To give our kids love and empathy as they make mistakes. Let them forget their lunch or be late for school. Heaven forbid but let them turn in assignments late or get a bad grade. They need to know what it feels like to fail so that they'll want to succeed.
16:00min
The End!
Contact Info:
If you have parenting questions of your own please email me: mary@parentingwithlogic.com.
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Have a blessed rest of your day!